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Capture Your Grief – Day 1: Sunrise

6:56am, San Francisco, CA at sunrise grey overwhelms blue the light fades into mourning wet fog surrounds me I wrote my first version of this poem, “each morning,” about two months after Calvin (my first baby) died. In those raw days of grieving, waking up to the reality that my…

The Spaces of Missing

This is Louie holding our first baby, Calvin Phoenix, after he was stillborn in 2009. This is Louie holding our fourth and only living baby, Charlie Bastian, after his birth in 2012. It’s not often that Louie is recognized as a father of more-than-one, as a daddy to FIVE wanted…

I am shaped by my grief

Day 7: What to Say (Capture Your Grief)

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Please just say… I don’t know what to say: It’s honest. It shows you know the significance of what happened and that there really are no adequate words. I am sorry: Simple and sincere goes a long way. You’re in my thoughts/prayers: Knowing we are held in your thoughts and…

Day 6: What Not to Say (Capture Your Grief)

They’re in a better place: as a parent, it’s hard to accept that there is a better place for my child than with me, and even though I know being with God is the best place, it won’t stop my longing. Anything that begins with At least is probably more…

The 5th Belongs to Calvin: Capturing Grief

Today, I want to share a photo-a-day project I’m participating in called “Capture Your Grief,” which was created by Carly Marie, an amazing force in the babyloss community. It provides a way for bereaved families to process and share their grief during Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (click the…

And because we will never forget…

Over at Dandiewinks, I’ve shared several cards to honor the grief some of us feel on Mothers Day. Here’s a small preview of a couple of the them: There are also cards for those of you are missing your own mothers and grandmothers and a “Thinking of You” card for…

The Donate Art Project at Beyond Words Designs

Stephanie, mommy to heaven baby, Amelia Rose, is the artist behind Beyond Words Designs and does beautiful work that supports grieving parents, honors the babies we have lost, and celebrates life and pregnancy. Recently, she started the Donate Art Project, which provides beautiful art cards for families who have lost…