I am shaped by my grief

The 5th Belongs to Calvin: International Bereaved Mothers Day – I choose to live and to honor you

This month, the 5th is special for several reasons: this is Calvin’s 50th month in heaven (that actually makes me want to cry, knowing how long it’s been since I’ve held him), it is International Bereaved Mothers Day, and it is the 1 year anniversary of Still Standing Magazine and…

I choose to live and to honor you

I created this digital card in honor of my son Calvin’s 50th month in heaven, for my fellow sisters in babyloss on International Bereaved Mothers Day, and for the 1 year anniversary of Still Standing Magazine. It was not my choice to survive without you… So I choose to live…

Day 7: What to Say (Capture Your Grief)

On October 7, 2012, Posted by , In Capture Your Grief 2012,Grief & Loss, By , , With No Comments

Please just say… I don’t know what to say: It’s honest. It shows you know the significance of what happened and that there really are no adequate words. I am sorry: Simple and sincere goes a long way. You’re in my thoughts/prayers: Knowing we are held in your thoughts and…

Day 6: What Not to Say (Capture Your Grief)

They’re in a better place: as a parent, it’s hard to accept that there is a better place for my child than with me, and even though I know being with God is the best place, it won’t stop my longing. Anything that begins with At least is probably more…

The 5th Belongs to Calvin: Capturing Grief

Today, I want to share a photo-a-day project I’m participating in called “Capture Your Grief,” which was created by Carly Marie, an amazing force in the babyloss community. It provides a way for bereaved families to process and share their grief during Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (click the…

Mothers Day Remembrance Cards

Mothers Day is a beautiful celebration, but it’s also a time of heartache for those of us who have lost children, who have lost our mothers or grandmothers, or who are struggling with infertility. To help honor this grief, I’ve created several cards, which are free for your use. I…

“…you remember that they lived…”

On May 5, 2012, Posted by , In Photography,Quotes, By ,,, , With 1 Comment

I think this may end up being something I do often as a way to remember and honor my first son, Calvin Phoenix, who is 38 months in heaven today. I created the following card as a reminder to others that mentioning the loved ones we’ve lost is a source…