To those who say not to let my grief define me, I say, "Why not?" Our everyday experiences shape who we are. So why not the extraordinary ones that rip our hearts open? A heart that knows mourning is tender not only to its own aching but to that of
Read MoreThis month, the 5th is special for several reasons: this is Calvin's 50th month in heaven (that actually makes me want to cry, knowing how long it's been since I've held him), it is International Bereaved Mothers Day, and it is the 1 year anniversary of Still Standing Magazine and the heavenly birthday
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I created this digital card in honor of my son Calvin's 50th month in heaven, for my fellow sisters in babyloss on International Bereaved Mothers Day, and for the 1 year anniversary of Still Standing Magazine. It was not my choice to survive without you... So I choose to live and
Read MorePlease just say... I don't know what to say: It's honest. It shows you know the significance of what happened and that there really are no adequate words. I am sorry: Simple and sincere goes a long way. You're in my thoughts/prayers: Knowing we are held in your thoughts and lifted up in
Read MoreThey're in a better place: as a parent, it's hard to accept that there is a better place for my child than with me, and even though I know being with God is the best place, it won't stop my longing. Anything that begins with At least is probably more hurtful
Read MoreToday, I want to share a photo-a-day project I'm participating in called "Capture Your Grief," which was created by Carly Marie, an amazing force in the babyloss community. It provides a way for bereaved families to process and share their grief during Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (click the
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Mothers Day is a beautiful celebration, but it's also a time of heartache for those of us who have lost children, who have lost our mothers or grandmothers, or who are struggling with infertility. To help honor this grief, I've created several cards, which are free for your use. I
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I think this may end up being something I do often as a way to remember and honor my first son, Calvin Phoenix, who is 38 months in heaven today. I created the following card as a reminder to others that mentioning the loved ones we've lost is a source
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