6:56am, San Francisco, CA at sunrise grey overwhelms blue the light fades into mourning wet fog surrounds me I wrote my first version of this poem, "each morning," about two months after Continue Reading »
The Spaces of Missing
This is Louie holding our first baby, Calvin Phoenix, after he was stillborn in 2009. This is Louie holding our fourth and only living baby, Charlie Bastian, after his birth in 2012. It’s not often Continue Reading »
I am shaped by my grief
To those who say not to let my grief define me, I say, "Why not?" Our everyday experiences shape who we are. So why not the extraordinary ones that rip our hearts open? A heart that knows mourning is Continue Reading »
Day 7: What to Say (Capture Your Grief)
Please just say... I don't know what to say: It's honest. It shows you know the significance of what happened and that there really are no adequate words. I am sorry: Simple and sincere goes a Continue Reading »
Day 6: What Not to Say (Capture Your Grief)
They're in a better place: as a parent, it's hard to accept that there is a better place for my child than with me, and even though I know being with God is the best place, it won't stop my Continue Reading »
The 5th Belongs to Calvin: Capturing Grief
Today, I want to share a photo-a-day project I'm participating in called "Capture Your Grief," which was created by Carly Marie, an amazing force in the babyloss community. It provides a way for Continue Reading »
And because we will never forget…
Over at Dandiewinks, I've shared several cards to honor the grief some of us feel on Mothers Day. Here's a small preview of a couple of the them: There are also cards for those of you are Continue Reading »
The Donate Art Project at Beyond Words Designs
Stephanie, mommy to heaven baby, Amelia Rose, is the artist behind Beyond Words Designs and does beautiful work that supports grieving parents, honors the babies we have lost, and celebrates life and Continue Reading »
